We are constantly receiving feedback in every area of our life either directly or indirectly, and this is essential; it tells us how we’re doing, and more importantly, where we can improve.
However, most people will not voluntarily give you feedback. If there are indeed areas where they think you can improve, they’ll be reluctant to tell you, wanting to avoid hurting your feelings or risk your disapproval.
To get honest, open feedback you will have to ask for it and make it safe for the other person to give it to you.
The most powerful question you can ask in this arena is the following: